Buying clothing for a woman is one of the most effective but under-utilized methods to spice up your sex life. Most men who hear the idea, get excited with visions of slave-girl Princess Leias dancing in their heads. That’s cosplay, and cosplay is just too complicated, emphatic and nerdy. It’s for couples who read Newtype Magazine together in bed. But neither do we just want to buy her something ordinary. You want to buy her something that will achieve a specific, very special, effect.
Wait until you and your honey are walking on the street in the shopping district or inside the mall. She will be taking long (turning-her-head to look) glances at all sorts of things in the windows, as always. But you will not be doing as you usually do. You will also be glancing and looking into the shop windows for something that catches your eye. Be careful to avoid the temptation of anything in the swimsuit or lingerie departments. What we want is something she might wear to a date. Not necessarily a dress, or anything for a fancy occasion. Just something pretty.
It is important that men understand something about women when it comes to their clothes. Women have favorites—that is, garments that they treasure because they feel beautiful whenever they wear them. You should make the effort to notice which garments those are, and remember to compliment her when she wears them. But a woman is also perpetually hunting for the next garment that will allow her to discover something new about herself. By way of her attire, a woman is in a continuous dialogue with her environment, including the attention of both men and other women. Imagine that your wife has never been approached by a forty-something Italian man in a linen suit, who presents her with a single red rose and says “Che bella” to her. On the day that such a thing happens, much of the credit will go to the garment that is most likely in her mind to have been the cause. It may be a pair of shoes. It may be her hairdo. But credit will be assigned, and thereafter she will believe in the power of the artifact, which is of course imaginary, but nevertheless necessary to permit her to feel the way she felt just after she discovered she was, in fact, the sort of woman who might at any moment be handed a single red rose by an Italian man in a linen suit.
When you approach the shop window with your wife or girlfriend, go with energy. Do not be a weight on the end of her arm, as you usually are. Go to the window to which you have helped to guide her, for giving her just the slightest additional encouragement with your own interested glance. Look at the garment together with wonder and awe. Look at your beautiful girlfriend or wife. Say not another word, but smile and nod and give your credit card to the girl behind the counter who is also smiling because she knows you are a lucky man.
When you are driving in the car or walking home from the store, be aware of the precious thing wrapped in tissue which now travels home with you. Observe how it is a source of sexual tension and excitement for you both. Consider that you are in the company of a woman who is going to discover something about herself. Be thankful to witness it.
If you ventured out a little farther out on the #7 Train, from Corona towards Jackson Heights, the local color became more varied. The Caribbean triumvirate that dominated my immediate environs loosed its grip and you began to see Mexican, and Central and South American folks too. There were lots of great Colombian restaurants ...